Monte sur scène, joue ton rôle
May. 31st, 2025 09:38 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
injunjane"Until the lion learns to write, all the stories will glorify the hunter"
Internet nowadays is full with videos suggesting how to "find purpose in life". Somehow men in the first place are supposed to have a purpose - apparently because being a purposeless woman is rather hard in our reality, others are constantly trying to find a very meaningful everyday task for her. A task of being man's servant (and also elders' servant and kids' servant) while men are engaged in their high-purpose activities as well as doing nothing - pardon my bitter sarcasm based not on some feminist reading that I don't do, but on real situations in life :)
I'm brooding over purposes often, in particular trying to understand why I always knew what I wanted and what's the meaning and purpose of my life (spoiler: not a husband and kids), but my brother and some quite close people of male sex always had troubles finding it. All of them avid computer gamers, by the way - maybe because games create an illusion of achievement while there is none IRL.
And it seems to me that this lack of purpose is directly connected to the habit of playing a role (required by the society for one's sex, age and position in the hierarchy) instead of being one's true self.
The society always tried to replace individual personalities with social roles, at the beginning for the sake of that society, and now - when the burden of being its member is IMHO much lighter than ever, - by inertia. IMHO again, the current epidemics of "men discovering themselves being a woman in a man's body" at least partly comes from confusing a social role with the biological sex. By the way, living in the void the everyday inner world of real women that does not exactly correspond to their role and thus cannot be directly perceived by someone who is not in their body.
Watched an interview with Scott Galloway and Logan Ury. While I agree with many things they say, it blew my mind how Galloway could not get out of the traditional "real man"'s role when Ury started to talk about changes in women's needs in a partnership. She noted cautiously the fact that modern women earn enough money to be independent and so, they now often look for emotional support from their spouse or partner instead of getting money (even for raising children). He didn't even argue but simply ignored that note, going on and on about some "statistics from dating cites that show"...of course they show that women on the date cites (part of whom are simply bots generated by system to increase the paid time spent in dialogs) prefer men with higher income.
Income, income, income. A role that replaces any kind of purpose for a modern so-called "real man".
Why not to look at our life and see that modern society is a structure that can be duped (unlike say Medieval society) in the way that you give it a portion of your time, then go home and be yourself? Read the books you like, listen to the music you like, wear your favourite clothes, discover the Universe's mysteries and just don't ask the world if you do it right or not...
Internet nowadays is full with videos suggesting how to "find purpose in life". Somehow men in the first place are supposed to have a purpose - apparently because being a purposeless woman is rather hard in our reality, others are constantly trying to find a very meaningful everyday task for her. A task of being man's servant (and also elders' servant and kids' servant) while men are engaged in their high-purpose activities as well as doing nothing - pardon my bitter sarcasm based not on some feminist reading that I don't do, but on real situations in life :)
I'm brooding over purposes often, in particular trying to understand why I always knew what I wanted and what's the meaning and purpose of my life (spoiler: not a husband and kids), but my brother and some quite close people of male sex always had troubles finding it. All of them avid computer gamers, by the way - maybe because games create an illusion of achievement while there is none IRL.
And it seems to me that this lack of purpose is directly connected to the habit of playing a role (required by the society for one's sex, age and position in the hierarchy) instead of being one's true self.
The society always tried to replace individual personalities with social roles, at the beginning for the sake of that society, and now - when the burden of being its member is IMHO much lighter than ever, - by inertia. IMHO again, the current epidemics of "men discovering themselves being a woman in a man's body" at least partly comes from confusing a social role with the biological sex. By the way, living in the void the everyday inner world of real women that does not exactly correspond to their role and thus cannot be directly perceived by someone who is not in their body.
Watched an interview with Scott Galloway and Logan Ury. While I agree with many things they say, it blew my mind how Galloway could not get out of the traditional "real man"'s role when Ury started to talk about changes in women's needs in a partnership. She noted cautiously the fact that modern women earn enough money to be independent and so, they now often look for emotional support from their spouse or partner instead of getting money (even for raising children). He didn't even argue but simply ignored that note, going on and on about some "statistics from dating cites that show"...of course they show that women on the date cites (part of whom are simply bots generated by system to increase the paid time spent in dialogs) prefer men with higher income.
Income, income, income. A role that replaces any kind of purpose for a modern so-called "real man".
Why not to look at our life and see that modern society is a structure that can be duped (unlike say Medieval society) in the way that you give it a portion of your time, then go home and be yourself? Read the books you like, listen to the music you like, wear your favourite clothes, discover the Universe's mysteries and just don't ask the world if you do it right or not...
